Guest s******ecan**** Report post Posted July 3, 2010 ha ha ... you're right, Old Dog -- "bud" belongs on that list, too! I am guilty of using this one too much. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MNO4 789 Report post Posted July 4, 2010 its paying for sex. sex does not have to be intercourse sometimes its changing diapers (just saw that on here and thought I love it when peoples fetishes make mine seem tame) and sometimes its cuddling. You are both there for the same reason - the money. She would not be there if you werent paying her and you would not be there if you could get whatever she is offering for free. You are completely deluding yourself if you think that you are paying for her to visit you but she is only doing the fs because you are a great guy. For sure the finances of an sp make sense if you compare the 2-3 dates at nice restaurants to get into someone's pants but its not a date. You know whats going to happen because of the verbal/implied contract. And I completely agree with Meg in that there can be no double standard in being here in any fashion and implying that there is anything wrong with paying for the service. If only the rest of my life were this simple. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted July 4, 2010 WIT... I must admit that when it comes to social situations, or even in correspondence, I am a huge violator of the "hun" rule. For those who have met me, if it offends I do apologize, but it is an affinity for my friends and a genuine affection that causes me to do so. With deference to both this thread and the other, those will be my last words on the topic, "bud." Old Dog - you can call me "hun" anytime. But just you....LOL. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Origin 268 Report post Posted August 27, 2010 I may be paying for sex technically, But the instant I hand over the envelope I forget I did hand it over and an even am paying for sex. It just becomes me and her and no one or thing else (unless it is a duo, toys and things lol). Life's Good - LG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted August 27, 2010 My viewpoint is this. It is paying for sexual intimacy. It may last an hour, or two or however long you pay for. But during that time the focus is on you and the SP. I say intimacy, only because for me at least, it's not a 5 minute wham bam thank you mamm, and you leave, treating the SP as a thing. It is, for me, 2 people having fun together, and both leaving happy, and hopefully, not to sound cliche, respecting one another. Not leaving feeling cheap and used. Thus far I'm lucky to have connected with one special lady, who I will see again, and I think of her and our short time together fondly. Hopefully my introduction to this hobby will introduce me to other special ladies and judging by posts written, there are alot out there RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
YoungStud 468 Report post Posted August 27, 2010 It definitely is sex for pay. And those who forget that, as can been seen (sometimes all too often - lol) in posts on CERB, some of the "hobbyists" can get into some pretty weird fantasies and delusions. {;-) (Reminder - "She's NOT your girl friend!!! GFE is a range of escort options, not the description of an actual relationship." Lol!) But on the other hand, when it works really well, it can be friendly, sensual, with its own sort of genuine intimacy, satisfying, sometimes satiating {;-) - and certainly totally fun for all concerned. And from time to time, some genuine and affectionate long-term friendships actually can emerge. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted August 30, 2010 When you try to convince yourself that you are not paying for sex, that you are simply "seeing guests in your home" or "on a date," you are blurring client/provider boundaries, and many of us work hard to keep our work and personal lives separate. We provide a service, a fantasy service even, but that is all it is. "Berlin" is simply the fantasy that I portray. Trying to befriend an escort is like trying to befriend an actor based on a character they played--that's not who they are. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Victoria Banks 21899 Report post Posted August 30, 2010 ( delete ) i don't know how? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
YoungStud 468 Report post Posted August 31, 2010 Trying to befriend an escort is like trying to befriend an actor based on a character they played--that's not who they are. I totally agree. Trying to befriend an escort will only result in her losing a client - you. The few occassions when an escort and I have become friends, it was a mutual thing that developed over a period time (as all real friendships do) and wasn't what either of us intially expected would occur. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BiffC 100 Report post Posted September 2, 2010 "Berlin" is simply the fantasy that I portray. Trying to befriend an escort is like trying to befriend an actor based on a character they played--that's not who they are. perfect analogy. I totally agree with you and young stud. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Big Sexy 133 Report post Posted September 6, 2010 Absolutely, a person has to know the score. I firmly hold to the notion of 'knowing my place' in the grand scheme of things and make sure I don't cross that line or let myself be delusional. This hobbying thing is around for a reason and let's not forget that. I am a friendly person and get along with most but I don't ever mistake someone's demeanor or outgoing personality as anything other than the job at hand, pun intended. It's important to know the difference. I am sure most of us do, but I have heard of some that forget this and let their fantasy become a reality for them, to the dismay of the SP who has to break their balloon! lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
