Heff2012 100 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 I have not been with an sp but it has long been something I have wanted to experience. My problem is when I was married sex was something that needed to hurry up and get it over with. That being said I am worried that if I visit an sp my experience will be over before it really starts. Just wondering if there are any sp's that have experience with this issue and should I presue my dream or just forget about it and move on Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 My advice would be for you to have a good look around Lyla / CERB and find one of the many reputable ladies from here who are from your area or tour there who you are attracted to and make a booking then relax and enjoy... you will be in good hands. These wonderful ladies will make it all about you and regardless of the details you will enjoy your time. I am a person who from time to time due to medical reasons am not able to perform like I might like too... in all my meetings with wonderful ladies from here it has never been an issue... as one of my favorite ladies has said to me on a number of occasions... it is not about the destination it is all about the journey. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 I have no doubt that many - perhaps even most - of them have experience with this sort of thing :) Just book an appointment that will be long enough, and let your chosen lady know in advance that you'd prefer to take your time rather than rush things, and I'm sure you'll have a great time. Just remember to not outstay your welcome... 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mikeyboy 27131 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 Don't forget that an encounter is not all about the "main event". There is a lot of fun to be had before, during, and after that. (Marriage can let you forget that sometimes). Maybe even consider extra time with her. A "second round" may not have the same issues if you've left yourself time for that. Sometimes we feel a whole lot of pressure for the perfect experience. Relax, have fun and don't worry about your "performance". There is no stage and you are not being graded on this. (And remember, the porn we grew up with is mostly a lie when it comes to what is "normal"!) If you have enjoyed yourself, then it was a successful encounter. An sp is the perfect way to get back on the horse too in my opinion as I find there is less pressure. They are not there to judge you. Just to make sure you had fun. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 I think I can safely say that almost all guys have some kind of performance issue at some time in their life. It might be "getting there" too early, it might be a case of "getting there" not happening and any one of a number of things in between. The advice to select someone and make your arrangement is good. You can mention your concern while making said arrangement or wait and see if you are more comfortable talking about it once you're there. You won't be the first person concerned about this and I suspect you will find the issue well handled. At this point in my life, I truly enjoy the journey and, on occasion, don't arrive at the destination. A dear friend was concerned about this a while back as she'd "arrived" several times and I had not. I laughed and told her I was totally having a wonderful time, that I could arrange "getting there" all on my own any time but my time with her was here and now and all the more special because I can't arrange that all on my own. :) So take a deep breath, review the various people in your area, and go for it. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
50 Shades Raven 31380 Report post Posted March 8, 2015 from the point of view of an sp, it is true, we do not judge you or use a scorecard, lol The 'main experience' is not all there is to an encounter, there is much more to it. Remember the point when your marriage was fresh and exciting? That is what an encounter with an sp should feel like. No worrying about bill payments, household items, the car problems,kids etc. Time with an sp should be invigorating, sensual and exciting. There are no ties with an sp, no having to worry if you are 'performing' to her satisfaction. Any sp should be able to make you feel welcome and give to you the best experience you could possibly have. Take a look around in your area, talk/text/email to the lady of your choice and get a good idea for what you may feel is the right person of your choosing. Not any one sp is going to satisfy everyone, as you know, ymmv, but that being said, I am sure there is someone out there that you will connect with that gives you everything you need, want and desire. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
