Meeting in a hotel bar

[schoolboy48 120]

Please excuse the newbie question but I'm wondering if it is acceptable to ask a date to meet me in my hotel bar? Part of the excitement for me is to have my date slide in next to me at a hotel bar and for us to have a few drinks and get comfortable before heading to the room. Is this an acceptable practice? Thanks in advance.

[Phaedrus 209521]

I've certainly heard of people doing this, so it's not completely out of the question. I suspect it's more common once you know each other... having to hope you're sliding in next to the right guy in the bar based on a description could make for some awkward situations :)

 

Bear in mind also that some ladies may not be comfortable doing this at all. I don't suppose there's any harm asking, provided you're prepared to take "no" for an answer with good grace.

[Izzy2 1015]

That does sound like fun! I agree you would want to make sure you connected withe right person or it could get awkward very fast.

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

This is something I have done.

 

The gentleman in question asked if this was possible, and because he had the advantage of having viewed my pics, I asked him to send me a pic of him.

This way I could be sure of the right person to 'slide in beside'.

 

It was like the ultimate fantasy, slide up next to, have a drink, some casual conversation, casual closeness and then head upstairs.

 

Now for me, it was maybe because I was staying at the hotel, but some hotel bars may see this as someone 'working the room'.

Because I was a registered guest, it was no problem for me, and I was sure of sitting next to the correct gentleman, but can you just imagine the implications if I had sat next to the wrong gentleman and ended up in a situation? Embarrassment indeed.

 

Personally, I don't see a problem with this, especially if it's a gentleman I've seen before.

All you have to do is ask the lady of your choice if this is something she would be up for, and adhere to her booking procedures and screenings.

If she asks for a pic to be sure that she has the correct man, by all means send one to her.

 

I had a great time doing this role-playing, and I am sure you will have fun with it too ;-)

[Winnipegcub 21293]

I think this is totally in the realm of something to ask about. As someone who travels often I always think about ladies I meet in bars. One thing to keep in mind if that if arranged...you should be prepared to compensate the lady for her total time with you.

 

PS, many ladies I know I love having a drink and just chatting with.

[YoungBeautyMirella 5600]

I agree with everything that was said above. I have done this before with someone I have met for the first time because not only was he a 'valued member' here on cerb, but he also was very kind and sweet when calling me and even sent half of the booking donation through email transfer(without me asking) to further more prove that he was legit.

Just be a kind gentleman and follow her booking procedures when contacting the lady you choose to ask. The only way I could think of someone saying no is discretion purposes(if it is a smaller city/town and she does not want to be recognized etc) There is no harm in asking :)

Good luck! :D

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

Please excuse the newbie question but I'm wondering if it is acceptable to ask a date to meet me in my hotel bar? Part of the excitement for me is to have my date slide in next to me at a hotel bar and for us to have a few drinks and get comfortable before heading to the room. Is this an acceptable practice? Thanks in advance.

It is absolutely "an acceptable practice" ;) A lot of us offer social dates and are always happy to start off a date over a drink or two at the hotel bar, even for a first-time rendez-vous. It's actually a great way to meet for the first time!

 

What I recommend you do, especially if you prefer not sending a picture of yourself to the lady is to describe yourself in details so she has an idea of what you look like (tall, medium height, slender, husky, short hair, bald, complexion, etc.) and what you'll be wearing.

 

Also, reserve the seat next to you by asking the bartender to place a glass of water where she will sit. Place her gift bag next to it. These two are excellent cues to let her know exactly where to join you at the bar ;)

 

Don't over think it and just have fun!

[Guest Pa***e-******tty]

Please excuse the newbie question but I'm wondering if it is acceptable to ask a date to meet me in my hotel bar? Part of the excitement for me is to have my date slide in next to me at a hotel bar and for us to have a few drinks and get comfortable before heading to the room. Is this an acceptable practice? Thanks in advance.

Nothing wrong with that..adds some excitement I think!

[Philander39 3705]

Definitely make sure you are clear with your arrangements. A few years ago, I was at a hotel bar waiting for some friends to met up for a night on the town. A very attractive young lady sat beside me at the bar and started chatting me up. Obviously, this is not a situation which normally happens to me. Luckily, for the young lady I knew what was happening and I quickly and politely told her that I think that must be a mix-up. I told her my name and pointed out another gentleman on the other side of the bar who was wearing a similar colour tie. Considering he seemed to be somewhat concerned that she was sitting beside me I was pretty sure he was the person she was to met. She laughed, thanked me for being so understanding and quickly walked over to her "friend".

 

I will say her "friend" was a pretty classy guy. A few minutes later, the bartender showed up with a drink from "the couple in the corner".

[spud271 47779]

I have definitely done this before, and I'm pretty sure most women would be more than happy to meet up for a drink first. My recommendation would be to do this on the second date. Would help in avoiding any mistaken identities as previously mentioned.

[Ice4fun 78407]

I have never actually done this but I have to say it does sound interesting... probably not something I could ever do here in my home town... just too small a community and too much chance of running into others I know in the bar.

 

That said it might be something to do on a trip...hmmm

 

This is one of the great things about Lyla lololol it really gets our dirty minds thinking :)

[Cato 160314]

I've done this a few times. Really fun. One we enacted a whole pick-up fantasy which added to the excitement! The ride to my room in the elevator was memorable! :)

[Peachka 4334]

Long before the internet, hotel bars were a 'go to place' to meet for SP's and clients.

[Ice4fun 78407]

Long before the internet, hotel bars were a 'go to place' to meet for SP's and clients.

 

I predate the internet in this hobby so I guess I better get busy catching up on all the fun I missed :)

 

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[schoolboy48 120]

Thanks everyone for the helpful replies. Looking forward to finding a willing partner in Toronto or Halifax on my next trip back to the East Coast. Cheers all.

[gkm5396 160]

The whole scenario does sound exciting and I think it would add that something extra to the encounter. I'd really like to give this a try. Stayed tuned.

[Kyra.Graves 23779]

I am with the others in that I think this is a fairly normal request, I would say I meet at least half of my dates out somewhere. I find the easiest way to connect is simply to make a reservation, even if you just have drinks you can ask for a table in the bar area and the hostess will seat you. Then when your date arrives she simply has to ask the hostess for the table rather than looking for you.

 

Of course if you are meeting early in the morning at say a coffee shop or some place casual then a hostess may not be an option, then simply telling your date what you will be wearing will generally work. If you both keep an eye out for each other you should be fine.

I find that it sometimes helps to have something distinctive on hand so if you know you will be the guy in the blue suit and you are meeting somewhere around Bay St. where you will be in a sea of blue suits grab something that stands out without being obvious, set a book on the table in front of you, maybe a trade journal or a file with "2015 CSR Report" written on it. It doesn't even have to mean anything but it will be a way she can identify you quickly and discreetly.

 

Good luck and have fun!

[Andee 220524]

I have done this on a few occasions. The first time, I already knew the client, so there was no guessing who I was meeting, but he ended up being almost a half hour late. I was sitting at the bar wondering where he was when he was over 10 minutes late. This was before cell phones were common place. When the hostess came up and asked me if I was Angela, I thought to myself that somehow they figured out I was an escort, by the top I was wearing (which was in one of my e-c ads) but I kept my cool and replied "who wants to know". She then said "your party Mr. X called to say he just got out of his meeting and will be here within 15 mins". That was the last time I ever wore something in public that I had featured in my pics.

 

The second time was a gent I had never met so I requested a partial deposit via email money transfer. The agreement was we would have drinks and dinner and then go back to his hotel room where we would settle up the remainder of business there. He over-extended the social outing part by over half an hour and then tried to re-neg on the private visit part saying he was tired, and grudgingly compensated me the extra time.

 

This can work if both parties are in agreement as to expectations and business protocol so that an enjoyable time (rather than struggling to take care of business properly) can be had.

[Ice4fun 78407]

This is a interesting thread and I have to admit it is making me want to arrange this type of booking in the future.

 

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[Emma Alexandra 123367]

I've done this as well..I usually suggest the gentleman meet me by the entrance...I will call or text him when I arrive. this way no mix up.