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[DarksideHobbyist 1883]

I might catch some slack here. Sorry, if so. I'm not sure how else to ask

:( Is there a proper way to ask if any ladies provide n.u.d.e.s.? What do y'all think??

[Triple HHH 12345]

You are definitely walking on a fine line, it is something I would never ask.

[CristyCurves 169032]

I think most post the pics they want seen, so asking for more would be pointless. Some have a private members area on their site where they may post more revealing pics.

I won't speak for anyone else but if someone messaged me asking for nude pics I'd ignore the request, after all if I wanted to be seen nude I'd post those pics. I'm not going to send out pics to anyone, especially someone I don't know.

[Brad 49548]

I hope you dont catch slack as you say, since your question seems asked in good faith and I think it is best for everyone if people feel like they can ask questions (better than not doing so out of fear and making a mistake in my opinion).

 

I would say though that it is not a question you should pose. Rather, it is likely a safe bet that if a lady was comfortable sharing nudes that she would be doing so. Yes, there is always a chance she might share some upon request, but there is a much, much bigger chance you will just make a poor impression.

 

Not worth the risk of unintentionally insulting someone or souring a potential relationship in my opinion.

 

Cheers.

[roamingguy 300292]

JMHO But proper way to ask....don't

Ladies often have pictures on their websites and albums on Lyla

And some ladies have members only sections too

Those are the pictures she is willing to post and share, and done as part of attracting prospective clients/clients

But to ask a lady if she will provide you with n ude pictures, I wouldn't

She may think you're just a tire kicker looking for free pics, and not a prospective client looking for a date.

Any pics she has are used for getting clients...in other words as part of her business

 

RG

[Ice4fun 78407]

I don't think I would ask a lady I have met many times to give me nude pictures... lol... I might secretly hope she would but I don't think I would ask... so I definitely would not ask a lady I have never met as I think in most cases it would mean you would never get the chance to meet her.

 

Just my Opinion

 

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[eggsandbacon 2182]

the only time i have ever asked a lady for pics, is if she didn't have any in her ad. i've never asked for nude though haha, although you do get the odd where they may send one or two. I dont think its necessarily good for business though. The pictures are there to entice and tease us, I think if a lady was post a bunch of nudes it would "spoil the surprise" so to speak

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

simple answer to that question, there is no way of asking.

 

We post pics that we want seen. To ask a lady to send you 'those' pics, especially if she has pics on here and/or on her site, is just asking to be blocked from being able to contact her.

 

I get asked to text pics like that, and I don't. I refer the person asking for them to my website and state that pictures are there to be viewed.

 

Why on earth would a lady send pics like that if she has pics on here?

[Guest **cely***r***ne]

Personally, I don't send pictures. You never know what will be done with them. That may sound silly as our pictures are already out there, but we've placed them where we want them, how we want them. Sending any type of picture imo is giving freebies, and doesn't further the mystery, or anticipation of meeting the lady..but that's just how I see things.

[stanger87 160]

I agree, that's just a question that should never be asked to any of the ladies. Not a great way to start an introduction or possibly ruin a relationship and I would even say it's disrespectful. If any particular lady wanted to show nudes, she would, either in her ad or her personal website. So if you don't see any in her ad, etc, that should tell you something right there. So to all of you beautiful ladies out there, thank you for posting the pics that you do. And there's nothing wrong with a bit of mystery now is there! Bottom line, be respectful guys.

[Mikeyboy 27133]

I'm not sure that there is any advantage for the lady to do so in most cases. Most of the photos that are provided already show enough to get a good idea of the body, the size, and the fitness, of the lady. There is enough information to determine if you are attracted to the body type. I don't see how being able to see 'everything' would change someones choice on who to book. There may be those out there with a preferred shape of the naughty bits, but most I'm guessing do not. We all like to look at them but at the end of the day, there just isn't that much variance.

 

I'm not questioning your particular motives, but I suspect that in general, many who ask for this are merely looking for some free spank material, not trying to decide on who to book. These ladies are running a business after all, so you always have to ask yourself what is in it for them?

 

Just my initial thoughts on the subject.

[Guest D***el B***e]

Like really? Are you going to make your decision on seeing a lady based on nudes? come on man, really? what more is it going to get you? why don't you just go to the playboy website and look at nudes over there? There's so much more to discover than a plain nude. I'm not knocking nudes but it's certainly not the preferred way to meet a lady for the first time. I haven't checked your profile but you must be in your twenties or something, born in the age of the internet porn, and not knowing about developing a relationship other than looking at nudes.

 

Oh my gawd, sorry, this thread blew me away.

[DarksideHobbyist 1883]

well actually Mr Boone. I'm in my thirties, and the topic was meant to be a healthy conversation piece. Not some pointless attempt for spank bank material. There's plenty of that online;) Anyways, I was just wondering as some do send them out. If the ladies of lyla don't want my business because of it, then so be it. I'll take it elsewhere!

[roamingguy 300292]

well actually Mr Boone. I'm in my thirties, and the topic was meant to be a healthy conversation piece. Not some pointless attempt for spank bank material. There's plenty of that online;) Anyways, I was just wondering as some do send them out. If the ladies of lyla don't want my business because of it, then so be it. I'll take it elsewhere!

 

Well I'm sure the ladies of Lyla are just lining up eagerly awaiting the chance to send you pics on the chance you might give them your business

Actually I'm quite sure the ladies do just fine without having to send you pictures at all

 

RG

[misterdiscretion2014 2032]

As Brad stated earlier, the OP simply asked if it would be okay to ask, which is one of the purposes of this site, no? To try and better navigate this world and show the people who work in the industry the respect they deserve? It's difficult to do that if you don't seek clarification when you're unsure of the usual boundaries of the business.

 

Once we start condemning people for asking these kinds of questions, we drive the discussion underground. I for one prefer these things to be out in the open, where we can all learn more about them, and hear from people within the industry about not only what they think on the issue, but why. So while it did seem like a no-brainer to me that the majority of sp's would scoff at providing more intimate photos of themselves, I think this is a better site when people are genuine seekers, and not just regurgitating the same info we can all find by reading the stickies.

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

well actually Mr Boone. I'm in my thirties, and the topic was meant to be a healthy conversation piece. Not some pointless attempt for spank bank material. There's plenty of that online;) Anyways, I was just wondering as some do send them out. If the ladies of lyla don't want my business because of it, then so be it. I'll take it elsewhere!

 

when the ladies have photos done, they are done at an expense that runs into the thousands. I know that from experience. A photoshoot costs a lot to have done.

On this site, we are not allowed to post those type of photos. We can get close to that, but we do post photos that are in taste, and give an edge of mystery.

After all, isn't that what an encounter with any of us ladies is? A mysterious trip to wonderful?

 

There are other sites where those sort of pics are posted, but with c-36 coming into play, most of us have cleared out our websites to conform to these new laws.

 

Guaranteed there are ladies that will send out those pics to you, but in my opinion, it completely takes away the mystery.

Just as with clothingless beaches, no mystery. Whereas a scantily clad beauty in a bikini makes you wonder what is under that :-)

 

It isn't that the ladies on here do not want your business, but a lot of us will not send out pics through text/email due to the fact that we have no idea where those pictures will end up.

 

On our sites, and on here, we have control over the pictures.

Pictures have been distributed to other areas without our permission, so this way they are controlled.

 

[Guest D***el B***e]

well actually Mr Boone. I'm in my thirties, and the topic was meant to be a healthy conversation piece. Not some pointless attempt for spank bank material. There's plenty of that online;) Anyways, I was just wondering as some do send them out. If the ladies of lyla don't want my business because of it, then so be it. I'll take it elsewhere!

 

With all due respect your original post did not start out or sound like a healthy conversation piece. I think you expected flack and you got it, just sayin'

[EmilyRushton 253372]

I might catch some slack here. Sorry, if so. I'm not sure how else to ask

:( Is there a proper way to ask if any ladies provide n.u.d.e.s.? What do y'all think??

 

If ladies wish to share nudes of any sort they will probably be already posted on their website, ads or gallery here.

 

However if sending a nude means getting your business, I think I will pass. As will many others. Yet if you are inquiring about nudes because you are a collector, I'm sure if you help fund a ladies photo shoot, she would have no issue making sure you received the photos you seek.

 

Just for the record, anytime you start a post with, Im sure Ill get flack, it never ends well.

[Mikeyboy 27133]

well actually Mr Boone. I'm in my thirties, and the topic was meant to be a healthy conversation piece. Not some pointless attempt for spank bank material. There's plenty of that online;) Anyways, I was just wondering as some do send them out. If the ladies of lyla don't want my business because of it, then so be it. I'll take it elsewhere!

 

I hope you didn't take offense to my comments. I was careful to say that I was not referring to your intentions in particular. I have known you to be a respectful commenter in the past and I don't think that there is anything wrong with respectful open discussions. I was therefore trying not to sound judgemental in my response. We "dark siders" have to stick together after all.

 

As a businessman, whenever any question like this is asked, I always go to the immediate question "why would they?". A business is always run on the notion of mutual benefit. Otherwise it is a charity. There may be reasons I have not thought of that it would be adventagious for her. A thank you gift for a regular perhaps. I can't speak for the ladies. It just doesn't seem like there would be much benefit to her in my mind.

 

I guess the answer to the question "is there a correct way to ask this" is: it depends. Some will find the question offensive no matter how you ask. Some may not. Some may even comply.

 

I wouldn't risk it myself with those odds though.

[Amber Rose 19012]

Are you looking for free nudes? If yes, then don't bother asking at all.

 

Are you willing to pay the lady for these pictures? Then say that straight off the bat when asking in a polite way, some ladies will be okay with this.

 

This is the lady's business first and foremost, so if you're trying to get freebies, then everyone is right in saying they don't need your business.

If you want nudes, you should be willing to offer payment for them. Even then she may not agree, but it's certainly more likely to get you them. Just make sure you actually pay up, and not dangle the possibility of payment in front of her for photos.

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[VedaSloan 119179]

In my experience, guys who want nu des are tire kickers, collectors or otherwise a complete waste of time. So if you ask for nu des, that is the impression I get. It's not a good first impression to make.

[Samurai 7678]

With the exception of a few possible questions like, "what is the donation" or "do you provide incall"etc, I never make contact until I've decided to book. Having said that I do my research as required. I, as I'm sure other men, have become very astute at being able to ascertain what someone in a clothed gallery might look like unclothed. There are many indicators available to those who understand how clothing can be and is often used to create certain illusions.

For example, if a h.o.b.b.y.i.s.t had a fetish for smaller breasts he may pass up what would be a great experience with a p.r.o.v.i.d.e.r who has smaller breasts because she is wearing a heavily padded bra that is meant to create the illusion of having large breasts. However, if one can spot the subtleties, you can often tell the difference between large breasts in an unpadded bra and small breasts in

a heavily padded bra. But this is just scratching the surface. If you have a keen eye, there is often a lot one can reasonably infer from a non n.u.d.e gallery. Now, as often is the case, you may find that the gallery is still not telling you what you would like to know. Well than you can google for reviews, or PM Lyla H.o.b.b.y.i.s.t friends to see if they have seen and can recommend. And if you don't get anything there you're left with two options. Either go for it or pass.

I tend to use all the tools available before an encounter and if I don't feel my research has giving me what I feel I need I usually pass.

I think it's important for P.r.o.v.i.d.e.r.s and H.o.b.b.y.i.s.t alike to know as much as possible about someone before a potential encounter in order to avoid not only an awkward experience but also a dangerous one.

I do agree that in most cases what pictures someone chooses to share are the pictures they feel comfortable sharing. But, on rare occasion, I've had a p.r.o.v.i.d.e.r offer to send n.u.d.e.s in addition to their non n.u.d.e gallery without me asking. So I don't know if its rude to ask, I personally never ask but then again I don't think I'd be offended if a p.r.o.v.i.d.e.r asked me for nudes..but I am not qualified to speak for others and each person has a right to decide what is right for them.

[fortunateone 156618]

In my experience, guys who want nu des are tire kickers, collectors or otherwise a complete waste of time. So if you ask for nu des, that is the impression I get. It's not a good first impression to make.

 

and if you tell a guy who is asking for certain type of pics or more pics "no" you often get a similar reply like above " if you want my biz" threat in other words. and while some sps are green enough to comply at first eventually they wise up to this game. eithr that or the ones sending out nudes and face pics may not be the sp herself but someone runing her who could care less about what is being done with those pics.

 

 

something to consider

[DarksideHobbyist 1883]

well I did indeed catch slack for a genuine question that I was generally interested in knowing what the public though. Thanks for your input, positive or negative. In the future I will think twice about how I handle these taboo topics. Cheers!

[Ice4fun 78407]

well I did indeed catch slack for a genuine question that I was generally interested in knowing what the public though. Thanks for your input, positive or negative. In the future I will think twice about how I handle these taboo topics. Cheers!

 

We all catch some flack from time to time it's not really that big a deal... when we ask questions or give our opinion we open ourselves up to replies from others.

 

I have learned over the last couple of years that sometimes it all about how you ask the question or give your opinion and not so much about the topic itself.....

 

I for one am ok with people raising topics and stimulating discussion so don't over think yourself.

 

Just my Opinion

 

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